Love advice that meets you where you are
I offer honest and unparalleled advice. If you are looking to piece back together your relationship, need divorce transition help, or want advice on sex: I am your girl. I will help you become more mindful with your time and energy, while helping you create and build the relationships you choose to have.
About Me
Hello, I’m Heidi Harris.
Bedroom Princess in Northern Virginia
I offer advice via coaching sessions on self love, relationships, sex, love, and anything in between. I also plan retreats for couples and singles. Get on the waiting list, you do not want to miss these. If you are looking to piece back together your relationship, need divorce transition help, or want advice on sex: I am your girl. I will help you become more mindful with your time and energy, while helping you create and build the relationships you choose to have.
More about me: there is a quickie version and an intimate dinner version.
Learn MoreExperience the Relationship you have ALWAYS wanted
I’ve been called magical, marriage saving, and a s*x guru. You won’t find anyone like me, just ask my ex here. Please message him so I can giggle. On a serious note, I offer honest and unparalleled advice on relationships, s*x, love, and anything in between.
Build a Relationship you are proud of TODAY! Start with Date nights or Date days with your person.
Date nights can be marvelously fun and romantic for both parties. Put effort into the planning, and focus on enjoying the time spent together during the date, and I believe you will be pleasantly surprised. Date nights are greatly beneficial to relationships, no matter how long the couple has been together. Dates stimulate bonding in a new relationship. They cultivate deep love and romance for couples who have been together for a long time. Do you remember one of your best dates when you were just getting to know the other person? What about a really horrendous date? How about a really steamy date?
What is Sexology?
Sexology is the scientific study of human behavior and psychology with respect to sexuality and intimacy. Sexologists study and practice Sexology. As a trained and experienced Sexologist, I inspire individuals, couples and conscious polyamorists to ignite latent passions, elevate their sexuality and to live their best erotic life. I am honored to serve all kinds of people and enhance all sorts of needs: from normative vanilla to alternative shades of gray, to the radically unchained and everything in between.
What is a dead bedroom?
Let’s unpack this dreaded “dead bedroom” scenario. How did this occur? You both remember the years of steamy sex, candlelit baths and kinky showers. They don’t even seem that long ago. So what happened? Dead bedrooms don’t develop overnight, and they can arise for a variety of reasons. There is no clear definition of “dead bedroom,” and the specifics of the situation can vary widely. If one partner is left feeling underappreciated, longs for unrequited intimacy, is resentful, or feels sad and frustrated in the relationship due to loss of intimacy and lack of sex, then I’m afraid the dreaded dead bedroom is present.
Services
The Solutions I Offer
I will meet you where you are. Below are some of the items I coach on. If it is not on this list, message me and I’ll let you know if I coach on what you are needing. If I cannot help, I know somebody. It requires time, effort, and an open mind.
Take your love life to the next level
Sign up for the NEW couples class
Details
Class meets weekly. You must bring your partner. Or a partner. Don’t tell me it’s not your partner that you are actively working on your relationship with unless you want a lecture. This is an organized in-person class that lasts 45 minutes. I know that’s a little long for the ADHDer’s, I can promise you we will make it through the 45 minutes. Side note: I am a Sexologist. We will not be having s*x. Read here to learn what I do, so you don’t think anyone will be naked during class.
Topics to Choose From:
Leading in Your Relationship
Let’s Spice it Up: New Sex Tips
Do you need some guidance on how to lead? Or how to let your man lead? You know you want to and need advice on how to begin (hopefully beginning again) leading your relationship and your family? All relationships (especially longer lasting (haha) ones) go through ebbs and woos. It is normal. However, if you are finding yourself in your relationship and you have no idea how you ended up here and you need change to occur: Call me. I have helped many relationships get back to the extra good days. Want to experience the honeymoon phase again? Decide that and begin today.
Are you HAPPY but want some time with you man (or lady) to actively work on your relationship and feel more connected? Tell me your interests and I will design your s*x tips class around what you are interested in. I can give you random sex tips, but who knows if you like what I like? This class is super fun and there are lots of giggles throughout. It involves homework with your partner at home in your nice bed.
Self Love
Individual clients who are newly single contact me to reconnect with themselves, build confidence, and work through feelings of detachment of the relationship. All new beginnings come from an end. I hope you are finding your calm.
Relationships
I help couples reignite their passion for one another. We will work together to rebuild your relationship: achieve the passion level desired, emotional attachment, and a sexually fulfilling relationship that you are happy with and proud of.
Alternative Lifestyles
My absolute fav coaching! Alternative lifestyle living offers a gateway to endless fun, new experiences, and life-altering friendships. Vanilla sex just isn’t meant for all the humans here and that is okay.
Pricing Plans
Choose your favored plan and feel better today.
First Meetup
FREE
10 minute Super Quick
Consultation
Pay-As-You-Go
$155
PER SESSION
One hour Coaching session for one person. Couple sessions are available at $205 per session.
INTIMATE PACKAGE
$475
MONTHLY
One hour Coaching session for one person meeting once a week each month. Couple monthly sessions available at $750 per month.
Contact me
Have a question? I would love to help.
Frequently Asked Questions
What is Sex Coaching?
Coaching is a form of development in which an experienced person (me) supports and encourages a learner (you) to change their life in certain desired ways, as well as directing them forward purposefully on the path they wish to pursue. I do exactly this, through empowerment and mindfulness, with your sex life. Sex coaching is not awkward or embarrassing. I can tell you: I am very comfortable talking about sex.
Coaching is an interactive process that can be acutely emotional. My role is to provide a calm and nurturing space for you to sort through these emotions. This is sensitive work, and it requires teamwork, along with open and honest communication. I will listen to you without being judgmental. I am open-minded and use a positive approach to coaching. Coaching, goal setting, mindfulness, and a multitude of other techniques will be applied to help you to achieve what your mind and heart are seeking.
What does mindfulness have to do with sex?
Understanding and creating a space of mindfulness is imperative to a vibrant, happy, and fulfilling sex life. Meditation is a great way to cultivate mindfulness. Chat me for some tips on basic meditation techniques. Everyone can meditate! Don’t be intimidated, I promise you can do it. Studies have shown that long-term meditators experience increased cortical gyrification of the brain’s insula. According to one peer-reviewed Dartmouth study, women with more gyrified insula experienced more intense orgasms.
Mindfulness is a necessary skill for all aspects of life, and sex is no different. Once I learned practical techniques for achieving mindfulness, I was able to cut down anxiety and focus my energy on exactly what I chose to focus on. If I am giving someone my time, and allowing them to take my energy, I am going to make sure I’m totally present in that moment. Your heart must be present during sex, or you are not in the correct place or with the correct person for that time. It could just be the timing, but take a good hard look and ensure it is not the person or the place.
Completely experiencing another person, without filters or barriers of any kind, is an experience whose depth and intensity is unmatched in this lifetime. Perfect intimacy matchups lead to the strongest connections, and that leads to better relationships (and as a bonus, whole body orgasms).
It is natural for minds to wander. However, with practice and dedication, you can learn to train your mind to calm itself, and to fully enjoy and appreciate whatever it is you are giving your time and energy to. Doesn’t that sound nice?
Is sex coaching sex therapy?
Sex coaching is not sex therapy. We will visualize and create a plan to work towards achieving the sex life of your dreams. My role is to empower you with certain tried-and-true tools to achieve your specific goals, with a direct approach that includes compassionate accountability.
Do you use touch or sexual techniques in your coaching sessions?
Short answer: No.
Long answer: I do not. Sometimes your session involves sex, but this will be done in private, either by yourself or with a partner.
What makes you qualified to talk about sex other than you love it?
I offer excellent advice. My friends have always confided in me about their sex lives, and I have always found this topic easy to talk about. It’s a major part of life, existence, nature, and being human. It is what makes the world go ‘round, and I believe it solves a ton of problems. Thus, sex coaching is the perfect path for me, and I genuinely enjoy helping couples map out goals and overcome barriers.
The process of working with a sex coach helps to further bond couples (improving their sex life in and of itself), and to strengthen their relationship.
I had an acquaintance tell me one time: All you think about is sex. You are over the top.
My response: I do think about it a lot. What else is there to think about?
Ask people what their daily thoughts truly are, and where their heart lies. The answer? Sex. Thus, this is the topic I love to talk about. And by the way, it is okay to say the word ‘sex’ outloud, I promise. Say it with me: SEX SEX SEX SEX.
Do you have any professional training?
I am certified in Sexology, Love Coaching, and Relationship Coaching. This is a fancy way of saying I can help to enrich your knowledge and build your skill and finesse in the art of love, relationships, romance, intimacy, and human sexuality.
I was trained by Dr. Ava Cadell at Loveology University. I have the training and practical knowledge to help you boost confidence in the bedroom and have the sex life you desire. Lastly, I am excellent at building and maintaining strong and healthy relationships. This is really key to building a better sex life, since everything revolves around the relationship. Click here to learn more.
Why do clients choose to meet with you?
I am a neutral, well-intentioned and thoroughly trained third party. I am not in the bedroom or in the relationship with you and your partner. I also do not pick a side, and will listen to you both equally and fair-mindedly. At the end of the day, I am going home to my own happy relationship.
It is easier to open up and be brutally honest with a trained professional who is not entwined in your social circle. I am also creative, innovative, driven and organized. I will take notes and help set a clear goal with you. If you don’t have the confidence to talk with friends, family, or even your partner: call up a Sexologist (me). As you will discover, we sexologists are made of pure magic, and we will help you to achieve your sexual goals, both individually and in a relationship.
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Sessions with Yours Truly
What sessions with ME look like:
My approach to sessions is honoring who you are and what brought you here to meet with me. I take a body-mind connections approach at sessions. I use holisticness, personal awareness, and complete mindfulness. I would like to know what makes you you. Tell me the good, the bad, the very ugly, and anything in between. Tell me anything, I am a good listener.
Society is not sex positive. I am. Something that feels that good should be talked about normally. Open communication, vulnerability, emotional intelligence, and the uniqueness of each of our experiences is what makes us who we are in relationships. People will ask me what the “craziest” thing I’ve heard in my work, thinking Sexologists are seen by people who have crazy reasons. Let me be honest, I see really normal people with extremely common challenges. Mostly I see, lack of desire in a longer lasting relationship, lack of orgasm, low libido, or communication struggles with a partner.
This is what I have passion to do. It is near and dear to my heart. I will ensure you have a variety of ways to help your relationship. I will teach you the skills and give support in a nonjudgmental way for your particular situation you are finding yourself in today. You matter. Your happiness matters. Your pleasure most definitely matters.
Bring me your communication breakdowns within your relationships with your partner. I will offer support. I also offer self help and confidence building. I would love to work with you, to create the sex life and path you desire.
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