The Best Advice for a Newly Married Couple: 7 Tips
The wedding is over, now what? Does the fairy tale continue? The answer is: yes and no. You absolutely can live happily ever after with all the other feelings life brings up sprinkled in through the years. If you want your happily ever after, it’s going to take some work. Starting with a strong foundation helps! Everyone hears the age-old tips about never going to bed angry or always being honest, but the best advice to a newly married couple shouldn’t stop there! Marriage is a wild, wonderful partnership that deserves mindful effort right from the start!
Check out these seven tips for newly married couples!
Communicate Openly
Let’s start with communication because these communication skills weave their way into almost every other tip for married couples at every stage. Great marriages include open communication. It is so important to be able to talk freely and be a safe space for each other to share your innermost thoughts, feelings, fears, hopes, dreams, and triumphs – you get the idea. Your partner should be the person you communicate with the most! Of course, open communication includes hard topics, disagreements, processing hurt feelings, and finances. Building communication skills about emotionally charged or hard topics will help you build a strong marriage.
Make Your Living Space a Home
Create a home where you both love to be, alone or together. Your home is your safe space, your sanctuary. You want it to feel comfortable for both you and your new partner. Life as a married couple takes lots of communication, and decisions about your home are no exception. Combining styles, finding out what is important to you and your partner in terms of clutter, décor, and cozy vs. modern. Creating your home can be one of the first things you do to lay down roots together because many decisions you make for your first home will follow you throughout your life. Have fun with it!
Don’t Believe All the Naysayers
Don’t believe everything you hear about being married. Be true to yourself. Yes, marriage can be hard, but finding your life partner makes the hard parts worth it. Advice from old married couples who have been married a long time is to be true to yourself and allow your partner to do the same. With love and mutual respect, you can take all the best advice and pave your own way! Every marriage is different. You and your partner need to create your own way of doing things that work best for you.
Pursue Hobbies and Interests
Some sage advice from couples who have been married for 25+ years is to pursue interests and hobbies together and individually. As newlyweds, it seems natural to spend every minute together and shut the rest of the world out. That will get old fast. Be comfortable spending time apart pursuing hobbies and interests. Encourage each other in your pursuits and enjoy all the things you can discuss when you spend time together.
Bonus Tip – hobbies can be costly. It is critical to communicate about finances. Not to be restrictive with each other but to be in agreement about spending!
Talk About Sex
Let’s face it, sex before marriage is exciting. Guess what? Sex after marriage can be great too! Communication is the key to great sex after marriage (I see a theme here, do you?). Communicating about sex can feel weird, but open discussions about what you like, what you don’t like, what you need, what you are open to trying, and what you are not can pave the way for sex that ages like fine wine. It really can get better with age (and experience). Talking about sex can draw you closer together. After all, sex is about more than the physical act. It is about intimacy. Showing how much you care about each other’s needs, desires, fantasies, or limits can create a more intimate relationship physically and emotionally.
Have Sex
The best sex advice for couples = make it a priority! Life can get very comfortable after marriage, not to mention tiring with busy daily routines, a home to take care of, work, friends, family, and everything else going on in life. It’s easy to fall into bed too tired for sex. I mean, snuggles are great, too, but sex is an important part of marriage and something you don’t want to lose. Making sex a priority may feel a little awkward at first, but you can make it fun! Invite your spouse into the shower or surprise them on a random afternoon. Remember, just because you are married doesn’t mean you have to save sex for bedtime. One more thing, don’t ever lose sight of how amazing a great make-out session is.
Money Matters
Money is the number one issue married couples argue about. Money and stress are like two peas in a pod, especially when dealing with a tight budget or an unexpected financial emergency. Money advice for married couples is to openly talk about money. Make a plan for saving, spending, and earning. Financial decisions should be a team effort, and both partners should be able to access and see financial information. Also, both partners should have access to money. Money topics require listening, compromise, and often, discipline. Financial challenges will arise, and facing them as a team will strengthen your marriage.
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