This is near and dear to my heart. I help couples reignite their passion for one another. This can be done by spending mindful time with your partner working on your relationship. If there was a connection at some point, I can help reconnect. I provide a confidential environment where you both can work together to rebuild your relationship and achieve the passion level desired, emotional attachment, and a sexually fulfilling relationship that you are happy with and proud of. I also help happy couples. If you have achieved your desired level of happiness in your relationships, but want to have some new ideas for date nights or in the bedroom I can help.
I LOVE Relationships
Relationships are near and dear to my heart. Awakening the slumbering love and hibernating passion betwixt couples and rekindling that sexy spark is an important pillar of my expertise, and something I take great pride in. I also love to see others actively in love and maintaining happy and fulfilling relationships. I will introduce you to several proven methods and techniques designed to guide couples towards reigniting their affection, ardor and love for one another. I did have one client tell me once that whatever I am made of it is pure magic. It is one of the loveliest compliments I have been given.
Mindfulness in Relationships
One method of reawakening that butterflies-in-your-stomach infatuation that got you together in the first place is to spend mindful, intentional time with your partner. Mindfulness is a way of being, it is not a one-time quick fix. This sort of loving and present attitude needs to be cultivated over time. Begin by spending dedicated moments together doing things you both enjoy. And remember – playfulness is a part of mindfulness! I am that person that loves making little jokes and you definitely do not want to look over at me if we are in a no laugh situation. I also believe I’m hysterical and laugh at my own jokes. Be more like me. Life is not so serious. You are not leaving here alive. Nothing sterilizes the moment better than taking oneself – or one’s relationship – too seriously. Of course, the work of relighting the fire is important, meaningful, and significant. But this doesn’t have to mean it’s so serious. Seriousness is for the court of law, final exams and surgery. Relationships on the other hand, at their core, are about fun.
Sex Education in Relationships
Sex education is another good place to start when resuscitating a relationship. Children, financial issues, work-stress, stress-stress, infidelity, porn addiction and lack of desire are all examples of common issues that can put a damper on your chemistry. However, if there ever really was a sexy connection at one point, I can help you reconnect with it. I am trained and experienced in doing just that. I provide a safe, confidential environment where you both can work together to rebuild your relationship and achieve a smoldering passion, deep emotional connection, and hot sexual fulfillment you can be proud of, bond over and gain strength from.
Reminiscing over the origins of your relationship and what got you two together in the first place is another fantastic method to bring back the spark. Return as a couple to the sites of your first few dates. Peruse old photos of the beginning of your relationship. Re-read your initial, smoldering chats on Tinder or over text. Listen to the songs that became “your” songs while you were falling in love. Be creative! Re-live the birth of your relationship from as many angles as you can think of. This will help to rekindle the joy and excitement of your beginnings as a couple. This path is not for everyone. I just bought a homemade leather book and wrote 50 things I love about Kyle in it for our anniversary. Most were about his penis and our love life together. He loved it and said he wished I had ordered one for him to fill out. Me: I can see that you believe that it would have been a good gift, but I do not concur. Where’s the new diamond or put some cash on the table for me to spend. Brownie points to him for being caring. I’ll give him a hand job later.
Playing Nice in Disagreements in a Relationship
Focus on clear, kind, mutually respectful communication. As a relationship matures, and fights and disagreements add up, resentments can start to build up like plaque over the surface of your affection towards one another. Brush that gunk off using mindful communication techniques. One such method is the talking stick method. Kyle: You want to get a stick? Choose an object that has some meaning for you as a couple. It could be that book on the Kama Sutra that has gifted you all those sexy evenings. It could be a shell you collected on your trip to Maui. Or it could be just a stick from your yard. The important thing is what you do with this object.
When you are in the throes of an argument, whether it’s that old familiar fight about that old familiar issue, or a novel battle over a fresh grievance, get the talking object ready. One may only speak while one is holding the object. Whoever is raising the issue gets to speak first. And, critically, the aggrieved party is only allowed to bring up one grievance at a time. Once they speak their piece and explain their position, the talking object is handed to the other partner and the partner is allowed to respond. Keep passing the object back and forth until all questions are answered and the problem has been clearly and completely defined. You’ll be amazed at the progress you make as a couple using this time tested method of communication.
Useful tactics to Revive the LOVE in your Relationship
These are only cursory explanations and examinations of techniques I will bring to bear to rescue your relationship. Some other useful tactics to revive your love and lust for one another is to:
♡ Bring back thoughtful, romantic gestures. Go ahead, be romantic. I know you both have it in you. By this point, you know what your partner likes. Give some thought to what you know they would love and do it for them. Does she love ballet? Well then, even if you don’t like ballet, Sir, take her to a show. Does he always stop at the home and garden section in Walmart and lose himself gazing longingly at the power tools? Go ahead and get him that fancy drill. It won’t kill you, I promise. And it will make a big difference to re-establishing your affection for one another. Actions speak louder than words. Show your partner you are still willing to make sacrifices for them,
♡ Schedule date nights. All too often, couples stop going on dates when they move in together or get married. This is a catastrophic mistake! You need to work even harder to schedule dates after you commit to one another. Otherwise, the sexy spark is sure is suffer. And you absolutely need to plan ahead. The romantic notion that love is all spontaneity and moonlit skinny dips on a whim is unrealistic. Especially when the demands of life begin to add up – work, school, kids, friends, family, pets, etc. If you don’t make a special effort to schedule quality time and invigorating dates, they won’t happen on their own and your relationship is sure to suffer. Pictures below of a date night with one of my favorite relationships I have cultivated in this lifetime. We took pictures together on our coach. The couch my sister wants for her new house. Imma steam it before I give it to her. Anyway, back to the date night. We giggled most of the time. It was fun and cost us zero money, only time. The time spent was worth it.
Pro tip: take turns catering the dates to one another. If one date is to watch a football game, but she’s not so much the football fan, then the next date has got to be that new rom com she keeps mentioning. Suck it up and enjoy the date. Do it for your partner’s sake. I promise you the dividends will be felt physically between the sheets and psychologically between the ears.
♡ Try new things and learn new skills together. Did you know you can continue to generate new brain cells until the very day you pass on? This is called neurogenesis, and it’s essential for a healthy brain, especially as we age. And what induces neurogenesis? Learning new skills. Going outside your familiar comfort zone and seeking out novel information, abilities and qualifications is the number one way to generate brand new brain cells.
Think of your relationship as a kind of brain. Being a muscle, you have to use your brain or lose it. Thus, putting yourselves as a couple outside your usual routines will have a magical effect on your affinity and passions towards one another. Engage in mutual relationship neurogenesis by learning new skills, trying new things, tasting different foods, and visiting novel locations together as a couple. Excitement, innovation and unfamiliarity are all fantastic aphrodisiacs. So feed two birds with one seed: do new things and learn new skills together, and generate new brain cells while also generating fresh relationship experiences. What’s more, you’ll have more interesting memories to reminisce on later!
♡ Kiss one another more often. Remember when you used to kiss each other all the time? When you could hardly pass one another in public without making out? Well, bring this back! I promise you will enjoy it, and it will begin to heal, on its own, some of the hurts that have been preventing you two love birds from smooching.
Pro Tip: Pack a travel toothbrush and a small bottle of Listerine when you go out together or take road trips. Avoid super heavy foods like onion and garlic when going out to eat. I eat a lot of garlic as a detox and because I love it. I keep a toothbrush because of this. Re-format your behavior as a couple to accommodate and inspire spontaneous make out sessions. This one is a game changer, trust me.
State your intention for the relationship. Maybe the intention is that the relationship is overflowing with love that each of you give one another. You will be so happy and cannot believe you are living in real life. Relationships are nice, but effort has to be given by everyone. Happy loving!
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