Just as marriage is one of life’s most significant experiences to many, so is divorce. Divorce transition coaching can help you with the emotional, stressful, and mental depletion that often accompanies the end of a marriage. Is divorce the answer? Possibly. Possibly not.
There is no quick fix for mending broken relationships, that I know of at the moment. If you know the quick fix in marriage, let me know. Can I help save your marriage? Possibly. Every relationship is unique. The path the couple chose, to the point of discussing divorce, was equally unique. I do not have a magic formula to quickly fix the broken. However, if both individuals once had love for one another, then I am willing to sit down and help because I believe in love, relationships, and marriage. Both must be willing to work on themselves and their marriage.
50/50 Split?
Marriage is not an even 50/50 split. Some days you will be the best version of yourself, while other days you wish for your bed and for the day to be over. I believe it is most beneficial when each partner does the best they can do each day. Grace, communication, and love are your friends. If you both are having some bad days together, it will pass. Every day comes to an end. Hopefully, most days one will be able to give more when the other partner is needing a pick-me-up.
The Longest Year of Marriage aka The Separation Period
The last year of “marriage,” except it isn’t even really a year of marriage because you are spending it separated. If this is you today, take a breath. It will all be fine. You are going to be okay. I challenge you to spend the year getting to know YOU again and have the time of your life with yourself. Who are you without that other person? Detachment is a major obstacle to overcome and many individuals find themselves working through their attachment issues.
The fear of being alone is really the fear of being with yourself (your mind). For one who has done the inner work, solitude is one of the greatest sources of joy.
The Soul Apprentice
He is not wrong. Many people I meet do not even know themselves. Do you love you? I can help with finding yourself. YOU are worth loving, I promise. I will teach you how to spend mindful time with yourself, cleanup your life, and start living your life to the fullest.
I will teach you how to open your mind, make forgiveness easier, and how to make a relationship work for both individuals. If you are experiencing challenges in your marriage, contact me today. I will give you an honest assessment of your relationship, let you know what I am able to help with, and what I am not able to help with.
Recovery from Divorce
Divorce is a significant life moment, but you know that because you are actively living through it right now. Recovering is difficult for many through this painful and sad journey, however, it is not impossible. Divorce transition coaching will help you with the mental toll that often associates itself with divorce. Endings typically are sad and many emotions accompany the separation. Think of the other endings you have had to go through, I am sure you felt many emotions.
Divorce Transition Coaching is helpful if any of these resonate with your current self:
💔Stress about financial burdens
💔Resentment towards your former partner
💔Unresolved hostility
💔Healing from your partner’s infidelity, deceit, or other destructive behaviors
💔Feelings of underappreciation in the marriage
💔Your love language was misunderstood and not catered to in the marriage
💔Loneliness feelings
💔Confidence was depleted due to disrespect in the marriage
💔Sexless marriage
💔Guilt (from infidelity, lying)
💔Sadness caused by the ending of the marriage (I do not coach on depression, I will give some quick ways to try to dissolve the depression. I know an excellent MD that will help you through the depression.)
My 2 Cents: Exhaust all Options Before Divorce
While this is not my favorite coaching, it is necessary work. Please make sure you have completely exhausted all avenues of repair before leaving. Divorce is a lifechanging event and I believe it is necessary to say: make sure everything is said and done before it is completely over. There will be a point where it will be too late and it will be over. I work with individuals contemplating divorce, individuals currently in separation setups, and newly divorced individuals. I will teach you how to accept all types of feelings because I can promise you will feel many throughout this process: anger, sadness, anxiety, stress, guilt, or depression.
Do you currently have a plan on how to release your emotions? News flash: Most do not. Coaching will help you find a healthy release for your emotions and ensure they are resolved so they do not appear later in your life. Crying is a natural stress releaser. Cry. Let it occur in your nice pillow or under your nice blanket. Anger is motivating for many people. Use the motivation and channel the anger into something healthy (The gym is a good place to start).There are many ways to respond to pain. Smiles and silence are not the only ways. Sometimes getting into your car and driving to a spot that is totally deserted and screaming at the top of your lungs FUUUUUCCCCCCCKKKKK is super relieving. If all repair work has been completed and there is no path to saving your marriage, I am sorry, sometimes an ending must occur.
Your New Path and After Divorce
You are beginning an exciting time of your life. I know it doesn’t feel that way. I know it completely sucks. New beginnings are a fresh start. So let’s turn the page after you have gotten through the grieving of your marriage ending and get you on the path to the NEW you. You must want to move your life forward. It is also a good time to do a life check. Anything that is not serving a purpose in your life or that is unhealthy, let it go. You deserve to be happy and feel fulfilment in this life. Start with yourself. Who are you? Are you having a tough time with this because of codependency? Slowly get to know yourself again. Many people become intertwined while in a relationship and it takes real effort to feel whole on your own again. It gets better. The other side is bright and waiting for you when you are ready.
I know this transformation is painful, but you’re not falling apart; you’re just falling into something different, with a new capacity to be beautiful.
-William C. Hannan
Are you going through a divorce and feel so alone? Is the separation so draining and lonely? You don’t have to do this alone. A Certified Sexologist (ME) is able to help you heal, build confidence, and begin to create the life you want to live.
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