What Is Sexology And What Can It Do For Me?
What is Sexology and Who are Sexologists?
Sexology is the scientific study of human behavior and psychology with respect to sexuality and intimacy. Sexologists study and practice Sexology. As a trained and experienced Sexologist, I inspire individuals, couples and conscious polyamorists to ignite latent passions, elevate their sexuality and to live their best erotic life. I am honored to serve all kinds of people and enhance all sorts of needs: from normative vanilla to alternative shades of gray, to the radically unchained and everything in between.
What Training Do You Have?
I have received extensive professional training and have earned my certification in Love Coaching and Relationship Coaching from Loveology University in West Hollywood, CA. This means I can help with any and all sexual and relationship issues (the two are deeply intertwined). I am passionate about helping the world to be better at navigating sex.
What has been made unnecessarily complicated can be simplified. Layers of guilt, shame and insecurity can be dissolved, with an attitude of good faith and the willingness to work and learn. Nothing is impossible, and when it comes to something as foundational and natural as sex. Once you remove and deactivate the blockages, sexuality flows and comes through on its own accord.
Why Did You Choose to Become a Sexologist?
I have always been fascinated by human sexuality. I realized early on that one of my purposes in life is to help people achieve a more fulfilling and organic sexuality. As I explored ways of putting my passion into action, I found Sexology to be the key. After that, becoming a trained and certified Sexologist and helping my fellow humans to enjoy their sex life became a fait accompli.
I never do anything halfway, so every day I strive to be the absolute best Sexologist in my field. That includes remaining humble and open-minded, and acknowledging that oftentimes, it’s the clients themselves (specifically their bodies) who know best what must be done.
If I Suffer from Sexual Dysfunction, Should I Still Employ a Sexologist?
The goal of sex therapy is to help people move past physical and emotional challenges to have a satisfying relationship and pleasurable sex life. One big obstacle to a happy sex life can be symptoms of sexual dysfunction. A Sexologist can help you to diagnose these problems and take steps to either manage or minimize their impact.
Sexual dysfunction is quite common. In fact, 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men report experiencing some type of sexual dysfunction during their lifetimes, and this is likely a massive underestimate. These dysfunctions include but are not limited to:
- ● Erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.
- ● Lack of interest, desire, or passion fatigue in relationships.
- ● Low sexual confidence.
- ● Lack of response to sexual stimuli.
- ● Inability to reach orgasm.
- ● Excessive libido or low libido.
- ● Desire mismatch in couples.
- ● Inability to control sexual behavior.
- ● Distressing sexual thoughts or unwanted sexual fetishes.
A fulfilling sex life is a healthy, natural, and most importantly, attainable goal. Physical and emotional intimacy are essential aspects of your well-being. When sexual dysfunction occurs, having that fulfilling sex you desire and deserve can feel impossible. Hiring a certified Sexologist can help you to transcend these limitations.
What Practical Benefits Can Seeing a Sexologist Bestow on My Sex Life?
Sex therapy with a certified Sexologist may be able to help you reframe your sexual challenges and increase your sexual satisfaction. Sexologists also help clients create more sexually fulfilling lives, encouraging clients to take the initiative with their sex life. Methods for reigniting one’s sexual authority over oneself include but are not limited to:
- ● broadened sexual communication, experiencing orgasm fully, and shared climax.
- ● increased interest or experimentation in sexual exploration, adventure, fetish, or kink.
- ● exploring healthy erotica, ASMR, and other pleasure inspiration modalities.
- ● exploring polyamory and consensual non-monogamy.
- ● pursuing a career as somatic sex healer or therapist.
There are infinite ways for you to level up your sexuality. Whatever your current comfort level or desires are at, as your loyal and knowledgeable Sexologist, I can help you to maintain balance and grace as you attain your wildest dreams.
Where Do You Offer Sessions?
I offer sex counseling and guidance in the Northern Virginia area, to help individuals understand their sexuality, feel more sexy, gain confidence in their body, and exceed their sexual goals (individually or with partners).
I also offer limited Facetime sessions by prescheduling. Facetime sessions save time and ensure confidentiality. If you believe you are too “busy,” then I can help you better manage your time. I firmly believe nobody is actually “too busy.” Oftentimes, the real issue is prioritization and time management.
Who Do I Work With?
I work with everyone. Whether you are an individual, a couple, a throuple or a polycule, I can help you to attain a better sex life. I welcome work with all stripes, from alternative lifestyle sexonauts to the deeply repressed, and everything in between. If you have a body and want to improve your sex life, I can help. In fact, I can not only help you, but I can blow your mind and open exciting and sensual doors you didn’t even know were there.
How Does My Practice Work?
My sessions focus on both sexuality and mindfulness. Indeed, the two go hand in hand. As a Sexologist, I am radically sex-positive and have an open and earnest mind. My practice does not prescribe a perfect and pretty layout of what sex should look like. Rather, I will listen to your story, be present with both your wildest dreams and deepest fears, and mindfully listen to your goals.
I will give advice on how to achieve these goals, improve your sex life, and eliminate relationship issues. I address a variety of issues as needed, everything from sexual health, to personal development, to relationship dynamics, dysfunction, and disorder. I also treat issues from the past: sexual trauma, sexual abuse, and associated difficulties in getting intimate.
How Do You Help Your Clients?
I help my client’s in three primary ways. First, I help them to identify their sexual goals. Then we work on building the necessary skill sets for positive sexual growth. Finally, we discuss what needs to be done to maintain these gains. I offer education, resources, tools, and various techniques to help my clients identify, meet and maintain these goals, with the ultimate aim being the ability to manage their own sexual increase and abundance. The process looks different for everyone, and thus I always custom tailor my approach to fit the needs of the individual. A basic outline is below:
1. Identify where the individual currently is in the realm of sex and discuss where they would like to be when they finish their work with me.
2. Identify factors that are currently preventing them from meeting their goals.
3. Design a plan to help clients overcome obstacles to progress and manifest their goals, at a pace that works for them.
By utilizing highly structured and goal-oriented sessions, my clients work through where they currently are, and then map a clear path to where they want to be. At times, emotional issues will become present, and we will pause to address these issues, first by developing an understanding of the emotions’ root causes and second, by employing practical techniques to facilitate the healing of these wounds.
Emotional issues take time to heal, and they heal at their own pace. That’s just the way it is, and if someone is promising you a quick fix to deep-seated emotional turmoil, be cautious. If a client requires medical attention before, during, or after our work with a Neuropath, referrals will be provided to supplement the effectiveness of the sessions.
Dissatisfaction with a sexual relationship or loss of shared intimacy, in almost all instances, leads to negative feelings and equally negative attitudes. These negativities are highly destructive in numerous ways, both to the individual and the relationship. Many marriages end because of a dissatisfaction with sex or a decrease in intimacy. To save such a relationship, differences in approach and expectations to sex must be addressed, analyzed and overcome. Seeing a Sexologist can help resolve these thorny issues faced by couples or groups.
Do Happy Couples Need to See a Sexologist?
Yes, couples who want to enhance their current “happy” relationship can benefit greatly from visiting with a Sexologist. Remember: if you’re not continuously growing and developing your skills, those skills will atrophy. I see many clients who, while they are happy with their partners, want not merely to maintain their happiness but also to spice it up.
Everyone can benefit from continuing sexual education, counseling and therapy, even when nothing is “wrong.” Sexologists undergo rigorous training in order to acquire their Sexology certification. We are highly trained, and over time we develop valuable firsthand experience.
Importantly, Sexologists exist outside the relationship, and this unique and nonpartisan perspective gives us an advantage. Sexologists are also (most likely) not in your immediate friends’ circle, so a session will be less intrusive than having your best friend listen in on how your marriage is not where you want it to be, your sex life has become tepid and boring, or that you are thinking of going to a swingers’ weekend with wifey. Best to save these kinds of sensitivities for a neutral, professional third party.
Walk Me Through The Steps of Making My First Appointment
Great news, you’ve already taken the first two and most important steps towards elevating your sex life. First off, you have contemplated the issue and come to the conclusion that you could use some assistance. This is huge. Cliche it may be, but it doesn’t make it any less true: you can’t fix a problem until you admit you have a problem. And second, you’ve taken the time to research Sexologists to the point that you are reading this article. You’ve already done the hardest part.
Your next step is to make an appointment with me. Contact me here to get the ball rolling. We will then discuss your situation, what you are looking for, and what kind of investment you’re ready to make in the sustainability and quality of your sex life. Then we find a time and date that works for you. Would you prefer to meet in person or digitally? I then usually give you a short list of concepts and ideas for you to consider before our meeting.
On the day of your appointment, make a point to start your day off well. Recite positive affirmations upon waking, or listen to a song you love that stirs your soul. Eat a healthy breakfast. Focus on maintaining an alert and curious disposition. This will prepare you for a fruitful and successful first appointment. I look forward to hearing from you, and I’m honored to be a part of the exciting and momentous journey you’re about to begin.
Convince Me. Why Should I Hire You as My Sexologist?
You should hire me because I am the best. I am well-trained and thoroughly experienced in my work. I am also open-minded, sensitive and non-dogmatic. All the training and book-learning in the world do not make up for hard-won, real life experience.
Human beings are not algorithms (even though we are being conditioned to believe we are). Algorithms can influence the behavior of a person, they can even employ subtle persuasion tactics and foment the formation of patterns in a personality. But they are not the personality itself. Something that gets folded into the dough does not suddenly become the dough; rather, the dough remains as before, but it has taken up qualities of the additional substance. In the same way, algorithms we absorb through marketing and propaganda are not the actual self. They are not the true psyche, and they are certainly not the ineffable and infinitely mysterious consciousness that emanates from our hearts and minds as organic human beings.
You’re the inheritor of 4 billion years of biological evolution. We are captains of advanced technology. Much of this technology is dedicated to one thing: sex. Sex is what perpetuates the species. There is nothing more foundational and essential to the human experience, both individually and in community.
When you enhance and intensify your sex life, you honor your body’s own endogenous technology. You become an enthusiastic participant in the uniquely modern game of being simultaneously a thoughtful human being and an instinctual animal. You take a step towards unifying the opposite poles of your nature. And you become more fun to be around, more charismatic, and more magnetic to others. You’ll be amazed what else gets better about existence when your sex life improves.
So. Why should you hire me? Because you deserve a fulfilling sex life, plain and simple. A good sex life goes a long way towards a happy and gratifying entire life. And after all, is there anything more important than that? From fulfillment flows purpose, meaning and significance. Congratulations on taking the first step to achieving a more fulfilling life, one hot fresh intimate moment at a time.
